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[memorizingthedigitsofpi]

Reading the notes on my popular tumblr blog gets really depressing sometimes. Lots of insecurities. Lots of people who feel the need to turn any positive post into negativity. Fewer fanpol these days now that I use the block button very liberally, but they're still there. And this week, I once again got antis dropping into my ask box on my personal blog.

Dreamwidth feels much quieter and kinder and overall nicer right now, so thank you all for that.

I should probably extend my tiktok-break into a tumblr-break too. At least until after work stops being quite as crunchy as it is. Maybe I'll try to add some vacation days onto a weekend sometime soon. A vacation (even a staycation) would probably do me some good.

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[memorizingthedigitsofpi]

I think that's part of the rose-coloured glasses around LJ. So much more control over both who sees your stuff and whose stuff you see. I miss the days of social media that actually allowed for social interaction that somewhat mirrored how we do things in real life. It's good to be able to walk away from an argument. It's good to be able to avoid people and topics you want to avoid. Opting *in* is a more controlled action than having to constantly opt out.

but now I'm going down yet another rabbit hole lol. Sorry. Clearly I can't turn my brain off sometimes.

[yvannairie]

No yeah, I think you're dead on the money and I don't mind you talking about it at all. I never even had that good of a time on LJ, I got by in anonymous communities much better because I was always treated as kind of... weird and offputting for my lack of social graces and this was, y'know. Maybe undeserved but certainly true. In that way communities with lower interaction floor like Tumblr that are kind of a big party where anyone can pop into any conversation if they're brave and brazen enough help people like me put myself out there.

But in the absence of an ability to get serious and avoid public emotional closure is beneficial for community health, because it lets people take five and they don't need to feel like they're in the same room with the person who just set them off. Like I think a lot of the current sites lack that extra layer of "here's my friend group that I can error check my behaviour with", rather than going straight to DMs and private personal communication.